Don’t change to fit in, be your authentic self, and you will find your niche and those who are like minded.
When we change to fit in, we are not true to ourselves. We are uncomfortable and we become unhappy in the relationship. It doesn’t matter what the relationship, spouse, friend, coworker, the truth holds strong for each.
When we change for others, not only you can feel it but others can see it too. It shows that you are trying to be someone or something that you are not.
This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t change. The truth is that we all change many times throughout our lives. When we change though, it is for us, because we are ready to, not because someone else wants us to. It is because we are growing, maturing into our authentic selves (or returning to our authentic selves).
The commercial world wants you to change. They spend billions of dollars trying to convince you that you are not good enough, you can be better, you aren’t pretty or rich enough. Perhaps it is because of that we feel we need to, or should change.
You need to be careful not to buy into all the hype, it only leads to unhappiness. Yes, some products may make us feel better for awhile but the real happiness lies within.
Peer pressure is another reason people change to fit in. They don’t want to stand out. Perhaps they are afraid of not being accepted for who they are. This leads to repressed sadness, which in turn manifests in many different way. For some anger, for others anxiety or depression.
Be who you were meant to be, use the God given talents you have to make you, and the world a happier, and hopefully better, place. Grow in love and wisdom as you go, but don’t let the world change you; don’t change just to fit in.