No one can control your life except you unless, of course, you let them. Don’t let others decide your fate. Retain your power.
We can give or take control. In giving control, we understand that we are giving up a choice in the direction we are going. It can be said that we should not complain if we don’t like the journey when we’ve handed over the reins to someone else.
There are times others will lead and times you will lead. Allowing another to lead is not the same thing as giving up your power. You must be the one to decide and make a conscious choice. The choice is within your control or power, so to speak.
I am sure you have heard someone say he (or she) lost control. When we allow others to get under our skin or egg us on, we are handing over the power to them. We lose the ability for self-control because, at some point, we make a snap decision that we will react, going against our normal nature.
Please realize that everything action, word, and thought you have is within your control. You have the ability to make or break your dreams, your life, your joy.
We all have the strength we need to live life fully and joyfully. So why then do people give away this strength and sit idly by while others succeed? For some, it is a lack of self-confidence; for others, fear.
Not everyone can recognize that when they allow fear or self-doubt to rob them of their joy that they are doing it consciously. They have handed over the power to be happy to some underlying circumstance or person.
Our friends, family and partners should lift us and feed our energy, not rob us of it. Those that take all the time without giving can sap and drain our energy. Like an invisible leech, they latch on for a free ride to reinforce their supply while dwindling ours.
When someone is draining you of your energy, you need to make a conscious choice to stop it. That doesn’t necessarily mean you have to walk away from the person, but you can shield yourself so they cannot drain your energy. Surround yourself with an invisible barrier, letting in only that which you wish and deflecting the rest.
Please understand that retaining your power is about what happens to you and how you act. It is not about controlling or reigning over others. We must work in harmony with one another.
When you lose control and get angry and yell, you are giving away your power. You are allowing another person to trigger you. Instead, look at them and perhaps inquire why they are doing, saying or acting the way they are.
If someone yells at you, you do not have to yell back. When a person is treating you poorly, you can walk away. The way you respond is your choice and yours alone.
Please don’t let others control your destiny, your thoughts, words, or actions. Take hold of the reins and retain your power.
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