Don’t let bad things and failures dictate your future. Use them to propel you forward. Happiness is a mindset.
We can let negativity take over our lives, or we can choose to push it away and look for the positive. There will always be a time or times when something terrible happens. This is life. We have to take the good with the bad. The mindset we carry is of our choosing.
Look to problems and failures as a stepping stone. Figure out why you failed and try again, or change direction as needed. These are the things that make us stronger if we let them.
One way to maintain a positive mindset when things aren’t going your way is to have a daily practice of gratitude. It doesn’t matter what time you do this, but try taking a little time each day and think about all the things you are grateful for. I like to do this in the morning and at the end of the day, but it can be done anytime.
Just waking up to face another day is something to be grateful for. So, too, is getting through another day when you weren’t sure how you were going to. We take many things for granted. Never forget that you have much that another person might not.
Another way is to remind yourself that what you are going through is a phase. Usually, it is short-term, and things will readjust. Some things can take longer to get through. When this happens, you must find something to draw on for strength. I draw on my faith, family and friends for strength.
Many things can affect us, a lot of them are within our control, but some are not. What we can control is our response to a situation. When needed, take time to remove yourself from bad situations, or pause and step away until things calm down.
If we are in a situation that brings nothing but unhappiness into our life, it is up to us to change it. Only you can change the things in your life that are not working out. Please note that this doesn’t always mean walking away. Sometimes, we just need to change our approach.
If we are miserable in our job, it is up to us to find a way to change to a more rewarding one. Until we can, we must bring our own joy to the job. This may mean training to educate ourselves further, or just switching to a different area and trying something new.
If we are unhappy in a relationship, we must change our approach. Determine if we are looking only to get and not give. Treat the other person as you did when you first met. Remind each other why you fell in love in the first place and return to those feelings. Often, we get too comfortable, and each stops trying to make the other happy.
Occasionally we will need to find ways to find our joy and pick ourselves up. Whether you listen to music that makes you feel good, watch or listen to a comedy or spend time with friends who can help lift you up, the action must be yours. It would be best if you chose to find a way to make yourself happy.
Don’t look for others to be responsible for your happiness. This is your responsibility alone. Others can bring us joy and make us laugh, but we are the ones who choose to be happy. We choose our response to every situation.
When life gets you down, and you feel yourself slipping into sadness, pick yourself up and change direction. No one promised us life would be happy all the time or that we wouldn’t fail at times. This is life, and it is a natural part of growth. Don’t wallow. Change your outlook instead.
Attitude is a state of mind, and having a positive attitude can make all the difference. Make a commitment to yourself to be happy. Never forget that happiness is a mindset.
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