Sometimes it is hard to let the pain of someone hurting us go but holding onto it is not healthy. Don’t let anger poison your heart.
When someone hurts you, whether intentional or not, the pain you feel is real. These are valid emotions and you are entitled to feel them. You may feel hurt at first but eventually, if you do not forgive the person who wronged or harmed you, the hurt may turn to anger.
Forgiveness is not just for the other person, it is for you. When you don’t forgive and let go of the pain you are choosing to live in a state of pain. By choosing this, you are further hurting yourself.
Holding on to anger can cause sickness, depression and can also turn you into an angry, moody person. Some take their anger out on others which is even worse.
When you hold onto anger it grows and festers leaving less room for love to grow. Anger slowly poisons your heart making you less approachable. Less approachable means fewer positive relationships.
By forgiving someone you are not saying they were right in their actions. Sometimes, people think if they forgive a person it validates the action somehow. That is not true. When you forgive you are deciding to let go of the pain.
Holding onto anger also can prevent you from moving forward because you begin to close yourself off. You try to avoid putting yourself in any situation where you might be hurt. The only person you hurt by doing this is yourself.
Anger is one of the biggest destroyers of relationships. When you don’t talk things through and explain why you are upset or hurt, you end up pushing people away.
It is true though that not every situation presents this opportunity. Occasionally, the person you are forgiving needs to be avoided for your safety. This doesn’t mean you can’t forgive them. Forgiving them doesn’t mean putting yourself right back in a dangerous environment.
No one deserves to be bullied, yelled at, hit or threatened. Everyone deserves to be loved and safe. That includes you. If you have found yourself in a bad situation, do what you need to do to make sure you are safe.
Take the time to grieve your loss, feel your sadness and even the anger but then forgive and let it go. Don’t let anger prevent you from moving forward. Don’t let anger poison your heart.
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