How we see ourselves is very important to our self confidence. Don’t let others pull you down with their words or actions.
Too often I have seen someone put another person down to make themselves feel better. This is a form of emotional abuse and the person being put down often closes into themselves, losing confidence.
Nobody ever deserves to be put down or belittled, including you. You deserve to be happy and to be loved. If someone puts you down, reflect their words back at them. They are acting this way because they have no self worth themselves, so they try to pull you down to their level.
The childhood words ‘I am rubber you are glue’ come to mind. That is really how you need to be with mean people. You need to visualize their words bouncing off of you and back at them. This way you don’t ‘consume’ the words, you see them for what they are … empty and meaningless.
I use the phrase ‘armour up’ when this happens. My visualization is a shield of white light that I pull up in front of me. It took a while in the beginning as I had to visualize God sending me his love and light in the fashion of a protective shield. Now, with the words, I automatically feel that invisible shield, and am detached from the words. They are not mine, nor do I accept them. I have no emotional attachment to them and as a result they will not affect my self worth.
Another way people will pull you down is to try and pressure you into doing something you don’t want to do, something you know is not right. It is better to raise someone up with a helping hand than pull them down into a pit of despair.
If you are being asked to do something that you are not comfortable with, is illegal, or will put you in danger you must say no. People with ill intentions just want you to come down to their level so they are not alone in their situation.
Miserable people don’t like to be around happy people so they try to make you as miserable as they feel. Bullies, try to put you down and belittle you to make themselves feel bigger because inside they feel small and helpless.
Do yourself a favour and make yourself the priority. Don’t let others pull you down.
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