In a time of such sorrow when life is lost unnecessarily to unexpected violence or virus, we mourn.
Our hearts go out for those left behind, the ones who feel the loss the deepest. They too are the victims of death but live to mourn the ones they loved. They cannot comfort each other in this time of isolation nor can friends or family bid a proper farewell.
The only solace that can be found is knowing their loved one is not in pain and is experiencing the joys of heaven. They will look down always and watch over the ones they love and will be reunited again.
No answers will ease the pain, there may be a why at some point but it will not erase the loss nor take away the pain. So how do they move on?
Time is one answer, the loss is always felt but more bearable with time. They say time heals all wounds but I think the saying should be time eases the pain of all wounds, there are always scars, which in the case of the death is the loss we feel.
Gratitude for having known love also helps, as we can pull on happy memories. While they lived we were loved, and we loved, that is a gift to be grateful for.
Forgiveness is another, and one of the harder things to do, but we do it for ourselves, as much as the other person so that we don’t become full of bitterness and anger. Forgiveness helps us move on and let go and it also helps ease the pain.
For people of faith, there is an underlying strength that comes in knowing where our loved ones are and that we will meet again. We know they are not experiencing pain, only joy and that gives some comfort.
You may not see us but we mourn with you. A candle will be lit for you and the ones you have lost. Be brave, be safe, stay strong and know that you are not alone in your mourning.
We are with you in spirit and we know this was an unnecessary loss.