Look For Good In Others Not Status

If you truly want meaningful relationships then you must look for the good in others and not at their status.

Be impressed by those who show kindness, compassion, honesty and love not by those who are showing the opposite. People who live by the former are happier and a joy to be around while people who live by the latter are usually angry, dissatisfied and restless.

When a person is always trying to buy the next best thing, the bigger house, the bigger tv, the top of the line car, they are usually trying to fill a void. It is nice that they’ve obtained what they are wanting to be sure as most work hard for it. The thing is though, is that they are happy only for a short while. Eventually they discover it doesn’t fill the void and so they start again, looking for something to bring them joy.

Long term, lasting joy is not found in material things. You must look within and be happy with yourself. If you don’t like something you have the power to change it. It is your choice.

Do not make the mistake of believing your happiness can be found in another individual either. Yes, others love you but it is not their job to make you happy. Their job is solely to be our friend.

The best relationships are the ones where you support each other and grow together. When one of you is down, the other is there to support, each of you taking turns as needed. Time can be spent without words and you find joy just in being in each others’ company.

Good friends can go months without talking and then pick up like they were just together yesterday. The relationship is easy and flows naturally. Why? Usually because you are not looking for the other person to make you happy. It doesn’t mean they don’t bring joy to you but they are not responsible for your joy.

When choosing your friends look for people with similar traits. People who share the same values as you, not for what they own. Picking friends because they are wealthy and have all the toys we may desire is not the basis for a long lasting relationship. It puts you in the role of ‘wanting’ which can make you envious and eventually the other person feels used.

This doesn’t mean wealthy people cannot be our friends but their wealth should not be the key factor for the friendship. There are many wealthy people, who are kind, compassionate and giving. They help those in need and make good use of their advantages.

A relationship where we love because of who the person is instead of what the person has is one that will last. We are more interested ourselves in giving than taking which makes for a mutually beneficial friendship, where all parties equally contribute.

If you want relationships that last, look for the good in others not the status.

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Published by Leslie Dobson

Leslie has been writing since she was a young child, first with poetry and short stories and later with song lyrics, young adult stories and inspirational sayings. She is a multi-genre author and her blogs and books come when and where the Spirit leads.

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