Everybody, at some point in their life has been hurt, physically, mentally, and/or spiritually. We all have scars, some are just harder to see than others.
When we are young, people say, or do, things to hurt us. I’m not even sure they truly know how deeply their words or action hurt and the pain they inflict. Only you will know how much, or how little, another has hurt you.
At some point though someone will hurt you. I wish this were not true but it is part of growing. It is what teaches us how to respond. You see, it is what you do with that pain that matters most. You can react in a negative way, or a positive one.
Only you can decide how your scars will heal. If you don’t take care of them they will fester and grow in ugliness. You will become angry and bitter, and that opens the door in your heart to hatred. This would be a negative response to the pain you feel.
There is a choice however for you. You can nurture and take care of your wound, take care of yourself, so that scar while a gentle reminder becomes barely visible. You can take lessons from those who hurt you, as they show you what not to do. This will in turn, make you a better person, so you would never in turn do the same to another. This is a more positive response.
Our scars make us tougher. They teach us lessons, each one different. Occasionally we go through the same pain over and over again until we learn the lesson. Once we do, we can walk away and walk toward a better future for ourselves, letting our scars begin to heal.
Don’t for one second believe that your scars are the only ones out there. We all have scars. They are always not clearly visible, but they are there. When you get to know someone on a personal level, you will begin to see the scars they carry.
Showing, or sharing, your scars with someone requires trust. You trust that they will not judge you, think lesser of you, and will allow you to work through the process of healing them. The same holds true for others and the scars they bear.
Not everyone is ready to show their scars. Some scars run very deep. It takes patience, understanding and compassion. It also takes love. Love is the greatest healer of scars that there is. Love from another, without condition, and love for yourself.
Never feel you are alone in your struggles. There is always someone to talk to who understands because we all have scars.